Sassy brides, take note! Our girl Alex described her fun, one-of-a-kind wedding day this way: “Big party confirming the obvious.” She, her then-fiancé Mike, and their two girls planned a wedding that, in Alex’s words, “pulsed with love”—a ringing endorsement if there ever was for going your own way.
From the beginning of her wedding gown shopping journey, Alex knew what she wanted—a big, full skirt! When one of her friends tipped her off to our separates, it was a match made in heaven! She visited our Toronto bridal boutique and fell for our Arabella top paired with a lovely, layered ball gown skirt she scored on sale.
How did your sweetie propose?
“Mike’s parents have a place in Newfoundland right on the coast where we go every year. There’s a hike nearby that takes you out on the bluff with a gorgeous 360 degree view of the ocean and the town. It rained the ENTIRE time we were there and I could tell Mike was getting restless. Finally he saw a half-hour window of sunshine and he said, “Get your boots, we’re going for a walk” and we trekked up to this bench at the top of the hill. We sat there for a while talking about the last five years as a couple, our kids, work, the future. I had a feeling the proposal might be coming, but Mike’s got a way of messing with me. Just as I was about to give up on the idea, he reached into his pocket and pulled out this surprisingly large ring. He proposed, I was shocked, I said yes, we smooched, and then his mom phoned us and told us to stop making out and come home for dinner. Then we FaceTimed my parents and I ate lobster.”
How did you choose your gown?
“I wanted POUF. Everyone I knew was picking these really slimming gowns and I wanted to go 100% tulle with as much volume as possible. One day, one of my friends sent me the two-piece Lea-Ann Belter dress and I was IN LOVE. I’d never seen anything like it, it was perfect, it looked soft and beautiful but modern, too. My budget meant I had to do some rejigging and of course I went with the lace top from Lea-Ann Belter, and found a Vera Wang skirt that was ON SALE as the bottom piece.”
Tell us about your day! Did you have a theme or style in mind?
“Our day was perfect. Perfect weather, perfect people, perfect guy to share it with. We didn’t have a theme. We’re getting married. That’s the theme. We liked blue and gold so ended up buying decorations that suited that but we didn’t want anything too strict in style. People were wearing what they were comfortable in and looked awesome. Everyone was smiling, and the feedback we got was that the whole day just pulsed with love. Everyone had a great time.”
What’s your funniest wedding day memory?
“The actual ceremony had me in stitches. We wanted Mike’s cousin Max to officiate but it’s mega hard to become an officiant in Ontario, so we settled with him doing the ceremony and getting an officiant to do the actual legal stuff. Max speaks for a living, and he’s a riot. I can’t spend two minutes in a room with this guy without bursting out laughing. His ceremony was this perfect blend of stand-up and a run-down of who Mike and I are, and our relationship together. I relive that half-hour in my head at least daily.”
What was your favorite wedding day moment?
“I was a very tough customer. I didn’t want anything over the top, I didn’t want to be pushed into incorporating anything in my day that I didn’t feel was exactly who we were as a couple, and as individuals. So when Max and the officiant were asking about readings, I nixed every single one. No bible, no books, no poetry. They warned us that the ceremony would only be ten minutes long, and I said: good. Benches are hard on people’s backs and we had a lot of drinking, eating and dancing to do. So right when I thought we would be moving into the vows, Max said, “I’d like to do a reading” (I mean he said it better because: Max), and I groaned inwardly. And he said, “After speaking with Mike and Alex, and getting to know who they were, I thought this would be appropriate,” and proceeded to read a verse from the song “Dance Me To the End of Love.” This song was covered by the Civil Wars, the first band we saw together as a couple. I bawled. Right up until that moment I had been cool as a cucumber, nothing was going to break me. And then this. I mean, my favourite wedding day moment should probably be looking into Mike’s eyes once we’re pronounced husband and wife, but I have to say that of all the perfect moments of that day, having someone who has only known me, and us as a couple for the last five years, come up with something as perfect as that to make our day so special, and perfectly us, was one of the greatest moments of my life, frankly.”
What was your something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue?
“I’m getting up there, the dress was new, I borrowed a friend’s boob cup stickers, and Mike was wearing a blue suit.”
Where did you go on your honeymoon?
“We’re planning a September Iceland trip with our daughters. We rarely get to go together as a family so this was a big priority for us. Mike and I getting married was a proclamation to our friends and family that we’re a unit, and we’re only half without our girls.”
Any advice for future brides/grooms?
“Have the wedding you can afford. The autonomy that comes with writing those cheques yourself is so worth not having a DJ. We had a lot of great (and I mean GREAT) help from family who all understood that we were going to have our day, and were happy to help with our vision. And honestly, starting out like that to get the ball rolling makes it a lot easier to reach out to family and say, “Is there something that you would like us to bring/have/do that would make it special for you, too? Oh, you’d like to release one hundred doves to represent our love? Cool, set it up and I’m super looking forward to it.””